You have probably heard of FOMO, the Fear of Missing Out. It is escalated by social media and the urge to check your Facebook or Instagram account. No one wants to miss out on anything, until they do. That is JOMO, the Joy of Missing Out.
There is a growing sense that we need to unplug, unwind and relax. Yoga, which connects body and mind is a multi-billion dollar industry. Schools have developed lessons to help students to practice mindfulness. There are restaurants that require you to put your phones in a box in the middle of a table and promise not to use them during the meal.
The backlash against pervasive technology and social media is in keeping with the Danish idea of hygge (hue gah). Though not easily translated, hygge means coziness, warmth, security and comfort. It is about recognizing and enjoying the moment and nourishing the soul.
Think of sitting by a lovely warm fire, wearing a hand knitted sweater and soft woolen socks while sipping a glass of coffee, tea, or wine. You might read a book, or play a board game with a friend or loved one. It is quiet, calmness, and simpleness.
The Oxford dictionary named hygge a word of the year for 2016. The word hygge comes from a Norwegian word meaning wellbeing. It is an antidote to technology, politics and the harshness of the world.
Hygge has been a huge trend in the UK, and I see signs of it here in the US as well. There is a longing for simpleness, nostalgia, and things that are anti-modern. Fur throws are everywhere, including on the cover of the Pottery Barn catalog. Plaid, especially flannel shirts, have once again become chic for both men and women. The hottest footwear trend this year is boots. Self-care is a thriving industry.
The Danish people, who count among the happiest people in the world despite their long, cold winters, seem to understand the importance of relaxing and taking care of yourself. Here in Wisconsin we are between one large snowstorm last weekend and another on the way this weekend. My father always said that snowstorms are God’s way of making us all slow down. He is right.
Whether or not you are battling snow and ice this week, I hope you find the time to slow down and read a book, watch an old Christmas movie, or just sit quietly and look at the stars. I’ll be building a fire in the fireplace, watching the snow fall and having great conversations with my family.
What will you doing to find your JOMO?
Wishing you calmness and peace,